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Tomorrow, August 21st, my doppelgänger will turn sixty years old. I have known her for forty of those years. The man who honored me with daughters, my ex-husband, turned that number a week ago. What an interesting age to be.

As to forty years of friendship, that is a gift only age can give. We see each other far too infrequently. Our lives moved down different paths for years before we found ourselves walking beside each other again. From road-trips in college to visiting her dad in Washington DC, (three dogs riding in the back, howling all the way through the tunnels in New Jersey), to maid’s-of-honor at each other’s first, fleeting marriages. We sat and had tattoos inked when it was neither popular nor fashionable. We swam topless in the deep blue sea of Jamaica with our second husbands.

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My “Oh so 70s” wedding.


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Older but not yet wiser

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Even lazy in Jamaica she looked good!

Friendship, true kinship, weathers the stages of life we must pass through. Have we been distant? Of course. Were there times when we questioned the other’s choices? I know I must honestly say, there were some. I’m sure she would agree. For love of that person, you don’t take their forks in the path personally, you watch and support them, maybe they know better than you do what is right for them?


Big, hairy, boisterous dogs are her specialty!

She has always been the picture of elegance and grace. I know she feels herself to be a Black Swan, perhaps that blindness to her own beauty is what makes her radiant. Her’s was a life of “Coming Out” and society balls. Her dad was the most elegant man I had ever met. His job with the government was a delicious mystery and he was the first man I ever saw who wore wear  and patent leather shoes with total ease. He doted on us both and managed to smile through most of our mistakes.


On the porch at her Dad’s summer home in VT.

Her mom is the other contributor to my doppelgänger’s allure. Her beauty and charm are legendary and the genes run through to her only daughter. We are yin and yang. She is the tall elegance, I am the short fuse.


And so, to you, my amazing friend, let me be the first to wish you my heart-felt congratulations on hitting the mile-stones of life with such grace and kindness. Here’s to many more years of shared memories and wisdom. I am a lucky girl to call you my friend.


15 comments on “60

  1. eodaxped says:

    Beautifully written, a lovely tribute to a life time friendship. My best friend and I are walking a similar path…joy 🙂


    1. Thank you, eodaxped! Where would we be without friends!!


  2. Touring NH says:

    A wonderful heartfelt post! Friendship through years and miles is a thing to be treasured. You are both lucky women to have that! Happiest of days to her!


    1. Thanks Laura. New friends also count as we stack up the years together…

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  3. Doppleganger says:

    I am speechless (for once)… what a lovely post. We have certainly been there for most of the big events in each other’s lives….how wonderful to share that much of yourself with another for so long. I never had a sister, just 4 brothers, and you were that perfect sister… shared clothes, apartments, interests in photography, horses and dogs, and sometimes men. We are too far apart geographically, but, in this next phase of my life, I promise to remedy that. 60 is an odd number. I never flinched at 30, 40 even 50. 60 somehow seems different….. more grown-up perhaps. No turning back for sure. I always loved that we could pick up wherever we left off, once together again, time becomes irrelevant, we can still finish each other’s sentences… to you my wonderful Doppleganger, thank you for the lovely post. You have made the past 40+ years a joy. Here’s to the next 40!


    1. You owe me a phone call. I want to hear all about Paris!
      Happy (early) Birthday my friend!!


  4. julieallyn says:

    What a wonderfully warm, loving and caring tribute. Thank you for sharing this with all of us!


    1. Thank you julieallyn. I am blessed to have her in my life.


  5. Definition of friendship. Congrats. May both of your paths wander warm and interesting routes.


  6. There’s no friend quite like an old friend and I’m lucky to still have several that I’ve known since childhood.
    She’s lucky to have a friend like you who appreciates that it’s okay to be different.


  7. In the Stillness of Willow Hill says:

    How lovely to have such a longstanding friend.


  8. SB says:

    This was really beautiful. To the next 40 indeed! 🙂 birthday wishes to your doppelganger.


    1. Thanks for stopping by SB!

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  9. mariekeates says:

    What a lovely tribute to a good friend. They are precious jewels in life and worth hanging on to.


    1. Thank you Marie, friends who stand the test of time are indeed treasures.


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